Responsibility as a Virtue.

I’m big on the concept of responsibility. Self-responsibility; in my opinion is the most important virtue a person can attain. I always stressed this with my sons and have always held myself to a high standard in this regard.

If everyone would focus on their own responsibility virtue; all of us will benefit. We (humans) prosper and thrive from the reliability of others being responsible and consistent. Doing their jobs, keeping order and minimizing chaos. Replacing this self-responsibility with a ‘social cause’ is a trap for some. Blaming society for their personal faults and chaos; claiming mankind is NOT being responsible, and its YOUR job to correct them!! A trap some people create to avoid self-responsibility and self-analysis - and redirecting their life burdens as societal faults creating failed ideologies. Ideologies that are doomed for themselves personally, and often become a burden for the world. The ideologies that blame mankind for everything: nihilism being the most extreme, with socialism and communism being the fallback for many intellectuals that dispute the absolute self-responsibility philosophy.

In many many cases; the so-called expert intellectual – campaigning to solve the worlds problems is a mess-up person. Their personal relationships with family, friends and their own self are a disaster. They always blame others, and ultimately, blame mankind. These individuals have convinced themselves that the ends-justify-the-means; and pity the individual that dares to have a different idea. … No-one stands in the way of a ‘social cause’. Its about mis-placed emotion; not logic and scientific theory. Observational science is more then sufficient for them to ‘claim’ the high ground. Hell with the facts.

Be a better man…that’s not just a stupid old-fashion saying. It’s the only path to happiness. It’s the only path to solving worlds problems. Save yourself, and you can save the world. Treating yourself right; being a little selfish is not a horrible sin; it’s part of the path to self-responsibility. That doesn’t mean party, drink, indulge to extreme – it means take care of your responsibilities – that’s your head, body and heart!! You need to feed yourself before you can feed others. Eat, sleep, exercise, play, work – there are no short cuts. Don’t blame others – just be a better man every day!!! It’s a marathon.

Self-responsibility includes sacrifice. Not over-indulgence and narcissism. Balance working for a better future with enjoying the moment. Hard work will make the future happy-successful moments possible. Humans evolved to understand this from stone-age lessons. Save a little meat for tomorrow, think ahead; sacrifice a little indulgence now for a better future. This is being responsible; for you and those around you. If your family and friends prosper; so will you. It all comes around.

Once you have solved your own problems, your own responsibilities – you can help others, you can change the world, carry your brother, you can be a better spouse, a better parent. There is No skipping this step in life - skipping leads to un-scientific, unhappy, un-productive failed outcomes.

Almost all young adults want to skip this step. Jumping right to solving world social problems and blaming the world when it doesn’t work out. Thankfully, most of us grow out of that trap. At-least partially. The Reality of paying bills and caring for themselves comes along. But if that ‘blame the man’ trap holds on for years-n-years. Its likely to hold you back from success and any possibility of you helping change the world for the better. It can often result in alcoholism, drug addictions, depression, narcistic behaviors – the dark side of over-selfishness. Find the balance.